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I'm 23 now; In the BDSM lifestyle for four- almost five years now. I am a 24/7 slave with a wonderful Daddy/fiancee: who is artcomet.blogspot.com. But as you will see in this blog are the emotions that I go through each and every day- in and out of the lifestyle. This is to show how much I've grown and bonded with my Daddy, how I've dealt with 'the world", and how I dealt with people in the BDSM lifestyle; Enjoy.

July 22, 2011

Advice and thoughts on the lifestyle...

In this lifestyle you walk a fine line. And on that fine line, you see abuse and the right path of the lifestyle. Most walk towards the abuse part, thinking that it's the right path to take. The right way to take Dominance, to take a slave whenever they feel like it. And on that path, they whisper pretty little words, the slave wants to hear. Promising them that they will do everything for them, anything they want, if they are good and come to them, they will get. But what they dont know, is that what lies under those charming little words, is the intent of harming, the intent of abusing the control.

Those who do this, those who are in it, think why did I do this? Why did I take those words and thought this was what a slave is suppose to be. These are the words that most slaves say, when they find out the Dom, or Domme is not what they are suppose to be. They find out,maybe slowly over the years or find out fast, that it was all lies, it was just to be caught in webs and a game of cat and mouse.

I get this from a lot of slaves who have been in the lifestyle for a while or if not that long. Always saying, take a step back from the lifestyle because of what the Master or Mistress has done to them. I say this almost all the time, when I talk to an experience slave or upcoming slave who wants to be in the lifestyle. It is not a cakewalk at all. You walk a very taut line of restrictions,rules and of course the boundary of abuse.

I know this comes up a lot, but truly when you are in the lifestyle, you will always walk that fine line. Because when you are doing a “scene” or doing it each and every day, like me, then you have to cautious of it, have to be wary of how the slave is doing, how the Dom is doing. That is the whole part of what BDSM is about. Communication,Trust, and Loyalty. These three things, will make or break a relationship, yes,even “vanilla” relationships. If you do not communicate what is going on through the “sessions” and such, it can become bad very fast.

The first thing you need to know, if you truly want to be in this lifestyle is why do you want to be a slave or Master? You need to know deep down what you are. When you finally get that, then its time to look within and see what your limits are. This may take some time in finding out what you dont like and what you will do if forced. After you have gotten that, then the next step, is very important. Finding a Master.

Now, I say this is important, because of what I have written above. If you just hop right into it, not knowing anything about the lifestyle and say,”yes” to a Master, who you have not competely known, then this will be wary for you. This isnt a lifestyle, you can play with. Since this is messing with mostly with the mind, sure its physical but what is more than that, is that its more mental than anything. So if you are a person who wants to play games, you can get really screwed in this lifestyle.

Okay, so the steps in finding out who is a fake Master or slave is by this. Start chit chatting with people who say they are in the lifestyle. Talk about anything and everything. If the first words that come out of the Master's mouth is this: “Get on your knee's now,bitch”, then this is a fake Dom. You do not take the control whenever you feel like it. How do you know if the so called slave,you are talking to, or should I say trying to dominate is single and looking? You wont know unless you actually talk to them.

The next thing, to show that the Dom is fake is this. If they start chatting and say,”Hi, there,how are you? Would you like to talk on a messenger?” And then you say,”sure, and you start talking a bit, maybe another minute goes by and he says, “so are you single and looking” and you go,”no, im owned and engaged” and then they leave. This is another fake person. This is just someone trying to get into people's pants and to just get off with the dominating part.

All you are doing,is wasting Your time and you are wasting the slaves time. Sure, you are all thinking, but why is a slave online, chatting in these so called rooms. Well lets think about it, I mean for the real slaves out there. If you are truly owned and are loyal to Your Master, what else could there be. Sure, there is cybering, but that is a bit boring and a lot of limits there, and you know as well as I do, that is just plain fake right there. Then what else could be there, ah, yes, friends. Just trying to meet like minded people in the lifestyle.

But does anyone want to think on that, well,not really. So,lets get on with the fake slave part,shall we. To know that the slave is actually a person, try talking to them, and if they say,” I will relocate or I need money to relocate”,we can assume this is a bot/scam. If you actually find a slave, try to find one with a bit of spunk, not someone who is programed like a robot.(Which most of these slaves are like).

Also, mainly this is for people who are doing this in Real life,or RL. I just dont think dominating for real can be done online. But, I just want to give my thoughts on this lifestyle. Im pretty much tired of the so called Dom's and slaves on here saying they are in the lifestyle, but in reality are not. My mind is at some peace now, and until next time...

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