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I'm 23 now; In the BDSM lifestyle for four- almost five years now. I am a 24/7 slave with a wonderful Daddy/fiancee: who is artcomet.blogspot.com. But as you will see in this blog are the emotions that I go through each and every day- in and out of the lifestyle. This is to show how much I've grown and bonded with my Daddy, how I've dealt with 'the world", and how I dealt with people in the BDSM lifestyle; Enjoy.

April 2, 2012

How this lifestyle works.....


so= someone

so:would you mind if i asked some things about your lifestyle?
me:sure
me:you can ask all you want
so:well, first of all, my understanding of the whole BDSM thing is what i have seen is porno
me:right, and most times it is stereotypical
so:which i realize is probably an accurate reflection of BDSM any more than the heterosexual presentation is accurate
an inaccurate (sorry)
me:it's okay
so:i meant not an accurate
me:right
so:so does it just involve tying up and things in the mouth, etc.?
me:um most people yes. But it depends on the people, if they like that or not
so:well what else does it invlve?
involve
me:well the main thing, is power exchange
and with that, you have two options from that.. B and D, which is bondage and Domination/Discipline.. which most do
or you have S and M which is Sadistic and masochism... which some do
so:so do you do the bd thing or the sm thing or both?
me:W/we, me and Daddy do S and M
sometimes the Bondage but mostly S and M
so:so what does that involve?
me:well it depends on how "extreme" you are. For U/us, it's sorta medium.. lots of whipping, um choking,drowning, done wax, done knife play
and still exploring more in that area
so:does this relate to sex somehow?
or is it just something you do?
me:for U/us, no.. but for others it is
W/we do it for mere power exchange
so:and you enjoy this
me:yes
but there's no sexual pleasure in it
so:are you always in the same roles?
me:um there is some.. W/we just dont do sexual things really
um, no
W/we reverse at times
so:so you arent sexually involved then
me:not really
so:please forgive me for appearing so ignorant but wheres the pleasure in the power exchange
me:that is okay. i dont know, it's just there for U/us. i dont know me:how to really explain it.. but you kinda feel the power exchange being exchanged and its a really good feeling
so:okay
so:so sometimes you might actually draw blood
me:um yes
so:doesnt that hurt?
me:um to a point it does. But, it's pleasure and pain.. you push your mind off of it
so:you said wax
me:yes
so:and the burns are okay then
me:um it was candle wax.. so it didnt leave anything really. W/we are not into the permant thing
so:so sometimes you swithc roles and you are mommy then?
me:yes, i am the Domme at times
so:your profile says youre engaged
me:yes i am
so:are you engaged to this man you call daddy?
me:yes
so:but you said you havent had much sexual contact with him
me:right
so:well for me i would rather have sexual contact than this
but to each his own
me:yea, it's different for each person
so:maybe the sexual desire i have is fulfilled in you by the other satisfaction
me:maybe
so:is there some way of signalling the ohter person when it is going too far?
me:yes
there will always be a safe word, or for U/us, usually He will stop and ask if im okay, or i tap Him or say stop, He stops
so:wow that takes a TREMENDOUS amount of trust
me:yes
and that is what is needed in this lifestyle. Trust and communication
is two big keys in the lifestyle

Sigh, this is why some people shouldn't be in the lifestyle or think they should be in it. Really people need to learn what this lifestyle is about, instead of assuming things. Well talked to this guy, and just seemed he really didn't give a shit about it. I think he was trying to see my flaws into being in the lifestyle, and then from there, shoot it down, but of course he didn't know who he was dealing with. 


You get to see how people perceive me and the lifestyle. But with this, no matter what, i will be myself and not care what people think. It's just sad that most think like this Well enjoy the conversation and Until next time...

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