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I'm 23 now; In the BDSM lifestyle for four- almost five years now. I am a 24/7 slave with a wonderful Daddy/fiancee: who is artcomet.blogspot.com. But as you will see in this blog are the emotions that I go through each and every day- in and out of the lifestyle. This is to show how much I've grown and bonded with my Daddy, how I've dealt with 'the world", and how I dealt with people in the BDSM lifestyle; Enjoy.

May 1, 2012

This is a fake code of conduct on Wire club....


There exists within the wireclub community several of us who engage in activities that are in large part mis-understood and frowned upon by the vanilla members of the site. Many view the D/s lifestyle as weird, cruel, demonic and just plain evil or worse. This is probably due to the closed minded religious influenced rules of the society in which we exist.

The situation being as it is it would benefit us all if we “cleaned up our act” and presented the lifestyle in a better light. It would also benefit us by providing a happy and fun environment to practice and share our lifestyle with like minded members of the D/s community. It is very possible to maintain dignity in our activities while being courteous and respectful as is our way. The following is a Code of Conduct which, hopefully, will be accepted and followed by all of us in the lifestyle who control and guide subs and slaves in the lifestyle we share and enjoy.

The Code

Definitions:
For purposes of this document the term “Dominant” (Don) is used for the sake of brevity to identify those persons who have been entrusted to control the will of others, regardless of gender. The term “sub” for the sake of brevity, is used to identify those whose will is controlled by a Dom without regard to gender. The term “D/s” is intended to include all aspects of “BDSM”, and “lifestyle” is a broad term used to identify those of us involved in the various activities.

The term “troll” is used to identify a Dom who intentionally lurks in D/s chat rooms with the purpose in mind of coaxing committed subs into his/;her clutches and interfering with the relationships of others.
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In order to maintain dignity, trust, and honesty among us, it is agreed that we will conduct ourselves within the parameters of this “code”, and we will:

Conduct ourselves in a dignified manner in chat rooms, within the rules established by wireclub and within the protocols and rules established by this code.

Respect the relationships that exist between the practitioners of the D/s lifestyle; recognizing the unique bond that exists between Dom and sub.

Refrain from criticizing or “bad mouthing” other Doms methods or practices, especially in a room occupied by subs.

Recognize that each relationship is unique and various instructions and rules of conduct are imposed on subs by their Doms. The display of respect of Doms by subs in chat rooms varies and is within the purview of the Dom to enforce the established rules. Use of commonly recognized capitalization common in the D/s life is preferred. A Dom is responsible for the conduct of his/her sub only.

Recognize and respect the authority of other Doms with their subs, and respect their relationships even though they may differ from your own.

Do not attempt to control, lead, teach, train subs who are committed and be respectful to subs who are not presently committed..

Doms will respect the authority imposed by other Doms upon their subs, and if a sub has been instructed not to chat in private that rule will be respected and no amount of pressure will be exerted upon a sub to defy the instructions of his/her Dom.

Doms will not engage in the practice of trolling in D/s chat rooms for committed subs.

While in a D/s chat room Doms will attempt to maintain order and avoid conflict with outsiders who enter and disrupt the room. If a Dom has moderator authority of the room that authority should be used to suspend trouble makers.

This is intended to be a “living” document and will be changed as required by a majority vote of those who have agreed to abide by its’ rules
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As it previously read:
“Recognize as a minimum that subs are expected to address ALL Doms as Sir or Ma’am and will conduct themselves with common respect for all Doms. This is intended only as a common courtesy and does not require a sub to demonstrate more than mere courtesy and acknowledgement of the Doms.”

Changed to read:
“Recognize that each relationship is unique and various instructions and rules of conduct are imposed on subs by their Doms. The display of respect of Doms by subs in chat rooms varies and is within the purview of the Dom to enforce the established rules. Use of commonly recognized capitalization common in the D/s life is preferred. A Dom is responsible for the conduct of his/her sub only.”

Okay, when i was in these so called Master and slave rooms in wire club, a while back, i saw this. How can one "dom" make up this huge code for everyone to abide by? He cant make everyone in the lifestyle do what he wants. That is not what this lifestyle is about. It's about learning new things, maybe finding friends and so forth, but instead he wants people to agree with what he put and be the end of it.


The above text is from this so called dom on wire club. I've talked to him and his so called slave and they are crazy. They think they are right and that is it. I've gotten into a lot of fights with them and finally decided after people couldn't be adults and be in the lifestyle that i gave up on this side of the chat place. 


So with that, there are things that I've highlighted in this so called code. So we will begin there, shall we? Okay, no matter what people will always be closed minded to this lifestyle. It's not always about the religious part but it could be about people's morals, or how society thinks on it, or their way of thinking is only right. There is not one thing that leads people to hate or not like this lifestyle at all. And you cant say its just religious things only. There are so much more than that. 


The next thing, if we all cleaned up our acts. Yea, those people need more than just that. I've been in those rooms for a while and they all act immature, so fake and so forth. I think they tend to make the lifestyle so much worse because each one is set in their own ways and not want to accept anything else. But to make this code for everyone in the lifestyle to accept and to go by is really ludicrous. 


And from there, he wants everyone to accept it no matter what, and he didn't even think of all the slaves/subs Dom/me's tell them not to abide by anything but them? It's already going against so many people's rules that i had to say something on this. I told him, that i don't accept this at all and he went all out on me. And one reason why i left. But, you can not make people do what you want and so forth. That is not what this lifestyle is about. It's about listening TO YOUR DOM/ME. No one else. Yet he is making this plain that he wants everyone to do what HE WANTS. I think it's bull shit. 


He doesn't know what he is talking about. D/s means that it is a Dominant and slave relationship. As it means, that it's a 24/7 living one. Not using everything in this lifestyle. As most do not do all of what BDSM is. Look at me for instance, W/we only do S and M, and W/we are in a D/s relationship. I just love how he thinks he knows everything about this lifestyle, yet he cant get the definitions of what it is down. 


Now, he used troll, i don't use that for what these so called doms do. Yes, I've seen it many times that they would try it a lot. But, troll just means you go into these type of rooms and you just start shit. Most don't do that, they just try and cyber with people. I think he needs to figure out what it means. Sigh. 


The next thing, he says that all slaves/subs should respect everyone in the room. I'm sorry but this goes with each person in the lifestyle and how the Dom/me has trained their sub/slave. As me, i told him, I'm not going to respect anyone, as it is earned not given. He didn't like that at all. I would come in and say hi whatever their screen name was and not use caps. Sorry only one who gets caps is my Daddy/fiancee, everyone else is in lower case. He didn't like that, and would try and correct me. And i would tell him, he needs to back off. Only one who can do that is Daddy. As it is in my rules that i do not have to respect them right then and there. And respect takes a long time with me. 
 I gotten pretty much used to them trying to correct me and when they would try to do this, i would ignore them and keep on going. I noticed they started not liking me as i wouldn't go with their little code and what not. Because when i first saw it, i knew they were all fake, as they were all agreeing with this. And that these people who told me they were in the lifestyle for so fucking long, that they were doing these little workshops of knowing what a slave or what this lifestyle is. Just stupid as hell. 


I don't mind respecting when Dom's and their slaves come into the room. But if you are just going to come in and just "punish" them in front of people, sorry I'm not going to give respect. As this is not to show/flaunt,well i know most do that, and i don't like being around that at all. Like i would come into these rooms and most time i would have to be quiet as they were punishing their slaves and what not, and that isn't what chat rooms are about. It's about talking and such. I just don't like such things. And each time i would see this in the rooms, i would say something and then just leave. Sorry, but i know I'm a slave but to one person and after that, I'm myself and i will speak up on a lot of things. Don't like it, then just kick me out, or i will go somewhere else. 
As you can see, I'm a slave with a mind of her own, and i will always be like this. I'm not like these fake slaves who do what everyone wants, and they get stepped over and it's quite sad. Now that doesn't mean I'm talking about everyone in this lifestyle. Just the fake type. 


Well there are slaves/subs who want to learn things and they ask for it. I mean this whole conduct thing is pretty vague in areas or he wants you to do what he wants. I mean this isn't what the lifestyle is about. And the way he is "leading" this so called group is sickening. And then he has the nerve to say it is a living document. No one can do this in real life, as it is online. Then says he wants everyone to abide by it. Just i have to shake my head to this. 


At the end, he tried changing the wording to get me to abide by this, but it doesn't work like that. As I've said, i only obey one person and that is Daddy. And anyone who tries and change words, change something to show, they want me to conform to it, will not work at all. I have my rules, i have my loyalty, love and support from Daddy and no one else. And i want to write on this, to show you, just how fake these people are. To show that you should follow what your Dom/me and go with their rules. And i mean if they are true and such. Sigh, just people need to learn exactly what this lifestyle is about. Instead of following one person. Until next time...

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